The Career You'll Love

The Career You’ll Love

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Too much planning?

I tend to put a lot of trust into planning.  It gives me comfort that I’ve prepared for contingencies, that I know how things are going to happen, that I’ve avoided risks.

But … I’ve also learned that there’s such a thing as too much planning.

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The Career You’ll Love

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A peaceful 2012?

This is the beginning of the International Hour for Peace.  I don’t know how widespread this is – Google is surprisingly unhelpful – but it’s a good time to think about how we’re each helping to bring peace into the world.

We all agree:  There’s too much conflict in the world, too much jockeying for position, too much greed and corruption.

But here’s the thing:  Humans are made to strive.  Each of us has ambitions to become more, to achieve, to develop, to grow.  It seems to be that instinct which causes us to want to get more at the expense of others.  It’s a win-lose game, ultimately ending up as lose-lose when those others start reacting to what I’ve done to them.

In my mind, this is one of the basic challenges we’ve been given in this life.  We’re meant to learn how to grow and achieve while helping others to do the same.

Easy?  No.  But life is not easy.

I find it interesting, too, that generally other people will respond in kind.  When I help others to achieve, they’ll help me – often more generously than I ever would have expected.  Call it karma if you like; it doesn’t really matter.

So here’s the challenge I give you, and myself, for 2012:  Let’s work on how to learn, grow, and achieve, while helping others to do the same.  Never at the expense of others, but in aid of others.

I don’t generally make New Year’s Resolutions – I find it a bit artificial and pointless.  Instead, let’s work together to make 2012 a year where we at least can bring peace and collaboration to our little corners of the planet.

It’s hard to know how to bring peace to 7 billion people in the world.  But to the fifty people I’ll affect most this next year?  I’ll give it a shot.

Do you want to help?

If you are interested in individual career coaching, group coaching, or other resources which might help you with difficult choices, please contact Carl at carl@dierschow.com.

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© 2011 Possibilities Partnership LLC

The Career You’ll Love

Sponsored by Carl Dierschow’s career blog at www.Dierschow.com

Time for a reboot?

It’s the end of the year.  I’m not a big fan of new year’s resolutions, really – I don’t see much reason to make up arbitrary goals with the realization that they won’t even last a month.

But…

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The Career You’ll Love

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Asking for help

I’ve noticed a curious thing about asking for favors.

You’d think that the difficulty of getting someone to give you something would directly relate to how valuable it is.  If I ask for a dollar, you might give it to me.  But ten dollars?  That should be about ten times harder.

If that’s the case, though, I should never be able to convince you to help me with something that will take many hours of work on your part.  You’re very busy – everybody’s busy – so what would cause you to just give me a lot of your time?

What’s going on here, it appears, is a much more complex transaction.

There’s a lot of value you might receive from giving me some of your time:

• You might have some fun
• You could learn something
• You might have the satisfaction of knowing you made a difference
• Your social standing could improve

These are often the reasons people contribute to charitable causes or join groups.  Especially when you aren’t getting paid for your contribution, it’s clear that these other factors are what drives you to engage and help out.

What do we do with this knowledge?

A particular case I run into constantly is this:  John would like to learn something from Jane, but is reluctant to ask for her time.  He fears that he might look foolish, and is worried that Jane will see it as an imposition.

And in fact, she might, if John approaches it the wrong way.  “I’d like to schedule a two hour meeting with you” seems difficult for a busy person.  Why?  Because it hasn’t conveyed that Jane is going to get anything useful out of it – perhaps it will just be a boring waste of time.

If John really values Jane’s knowledge, he should let her know.  Here’s some useful phrases that he might weave into a question:

• “I really think I could learn something from you…”
• “I’m looking to learn from experts in this area…”
• “I want to get my career moving faster, so I’d like to ask your help…”
• “I’d really appreciate if you could mentor me…”
• “I’d be so grateful if you’d help me learn more about this…”

Each of these, to varying degrees, conveys a sense of gratitude to Jane:  She’s going to end up feeling good about having helped John’s career.

John will end up receiving priceless knowledge, and in the same way, Jane will receive priceless satisfaction.

That’s much easier, in fact, than trying to get a stranger to give you $10.

If you are interested in individual career coaching, group coaching, or other resources which might help you with difficult choices, please contact Carl at carl@dierschow.com.

Connect with Carl on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn to get timely updates and connections to a broader range of professionals.

© 2011 Possibilities Partnership LLC